Too often, I hear White people say, “I’m colorblind” or “I don’t see color.” Worse is when they insist they’re doing good by bringing their children into it by saying things like, “I am teaching my children to be colorblind.” or “My children do not see color.” While the good intentions behind those statements are evident, it is actually more offensive than not.
If you’re scratching your head and thinking to yourself, “How can that be offensive”? or “Why is that a bad thing”? let me provide you with some clarity.
When a White person says, “They do not see color” or “Their colorblind,” the translation of those statements and what many POC hear is being different is wrong. I am sure it is not the intended result, but I still hear people say this all the time, and yes, I include POC as well in that group.
The goal for POC, well, at least for me, I cannot speak for others, is to applaud and lift up our differences. I do not want my children OR the children they play with to believe that being different is bad. Ultimately, I want my children to embrace the difference of … Read More
Today marks the first day that President Joe Biden starts his presidency, and it has been a loonngg time coming. I still remember quite clearly, 4 years ago, when the election results were announced, and I cried. I cried for myself, I cried for my children, and I cried for a nation that could condone a man of all the misguided ideals he stood for and elect him as our 45th President.
Today, I finally let out the breath that I had not known I’d even been holding in for the last 4 years. Today, my country redeemed itself of its misguided choice from 4 years prior. Today, I was able to say, once again, I am proud to be an American.
It’s a bit ironic that the way I feel today is similar to how I felt 4 years ago; it all feels surreal. The first ever Black AND South Asian woman has been inducted into office as the Vice President of America. It’s hard to even fathom and it’s not unlike how I felt when President Obama was sworn into office. We have made progress but we still have a long journey ahead of us.
Despite their induction, … Read More
I spent a lot of time convincing myself that if I did not react if I did not respond if I remained silent, complacent than I was better then all of them. More evolved.
I was wrong.
My silence was their victory. Their ability to make me believe that I was fighting against the status quo simply because I refused to engage in the conversation; simply because I was raised to think the problem with racism and equity in this country was because we spent too much time talking and not enough time moving forward.
Then I applied that same sort of thinking to something my husband has done to upset me. Whether a wound now that still fester or one that’s eventually scared over, I asked myself if I was ever able to move forward by merely ignoring my feelings. Was I ever okay when my grievances were dismissed without any regard?
The answer to that question, is of course, no.
So I had to ask myself, why is it then that I thought it would be a simple thing for my fellow brothers and sisters to do the same?
I was born in another country, but I … Read More