Why Saying You’re Colorblind Is Another Affront to POC

I Am Colorblind

Too often, I hear White people say, “I’m colorblind” or “I don’t see color.” Worse is when they insist they’re doing good by bringing their children into it by saying things like, “I am teaching my children to be colorblind.” or “My children do not see color.” While the good intentions behind those statements are evident, it is actually more offensive than not.

If you’re scratching your head and thinking to yourself, “How can that be offensive”? or “Why is that a bad thing”? let me provide you with some clarity.

When a White person says, “They do not see color” or “Their colorblind,” the translation of those statements and what many POC hear is being different is wrong. I am sure it is not the intended result, but I still hear people say this all the time, and yes, I include POC as well in that group.

The goal for POC, well, at least for me, I cannot speak for others, is to applaud and lift up our differences. I do not want my children OR the children they play with to believe that being different is bad. Ultimately, I want my children to embrace the difference of … Read More

Reclaiming Me

The other day I was reminded by a memory on Timehop how much I’ve allowed my identity to be stripped away by the title, “Mom.” As a result, I ended up having a major depressive episode toward the end of 2018, where I ultimately left my job.

It is so easy to let things slip away when you’re adjusting to a new title. Many of the things I used to enjoy doing I stopped because I was too busy being a mom. In hindsight, that was a terrible decision and one I do not intend on repeating.

That’s not to say I plan on neglecting my children; far from, I just have to figure out how to balance being a mom and reclaiming the pieces of myself that I let slip. The journey has not been easy but considering where I was in 2018 and where I am now, progress has certainly been made.

One of the things I’d like to accomplish this year is to actually start streaming consistently. I have put it off for YEARS, unable to commit for a slue of different reasons, the biggest being learning to narrate what I am doing, so if I am … Read More

How I Toilet Trained My Kids in 3 Days

Like every parent who finds themselves approaching this milestone, I was absolutely terrified. I wasn’t sure how the training would go and admittedly I put it off for a few months despite knowing my kids were ready. They were very interested in sitting on the toilet, flushing and had even gone a few times without much prompting on my part. They were ready far sooner than I was.

The first thing I did was search for resources. To be perfectly honest, I didn’t really put that much thought into it. At the time I had a Kindle Unlimited subscription so I just looked up toilet training books and stumbled upon “Potty Training in 3 Days: The Step-by-Step Plan for a Clean Break from Dirty Diapers” by Brandi Bucks. Admittedly, it took me more than a few months to dive into it but when I finally did, a lot of suggestions were practical and understandable. I think the most important take away I had from the book is that you should never place toilet training toilets  (should you choose to use them) in any area other than the bathroom. The reason is simple, it teaches children that they can … Read More